Three things every woman needs to remember
Sometimes, when we least expect it, a sudden blast of doubt, stress and uncertainty can hit us apparently out of nowhere. It is in that moment, when our pending issues, worries, workload, personal commitments and daily chores pile up, surrounding us and making us feel that we can barely breathe. It is important, at this point, to hit the “pause” button and come back to whatever it is that you’re doing when you’re ready.
We all know and accept that life will bring challenges, as well as rewarding magical moments, but it is true that when we’re facing a particular difficult task or situation, we switch into survival mode, which can be incredibly overwhelming and exhausting. Women, particularly, tend to absorb many tasks, even ones that belong to other people, mainly because of the social and cultural messaging that keeps telling us that we are the ones “better qualified” for particular jobs. As Gemma Hartley explains, “We’re told (…) we’re naturally more in tune with our emotional side, more organized, better at keeping a household running, planning holidays, arranging childcare, noticing details (…) and if we’re not, we’re less woman than the next.” This is a huge burden to carry through our lives, which we need to critically analyse and overcome in the hopes of finding our own particular sense of balance.
1. It’s never too late.
How many times have we thought that we are “trapped” in a situation, thinking that it’s “too big” or “too late” to be changed? This fear is completely natural, but let’s try to identify if there’s truth behind it. Reality is that, as romantic as it may sound, “it is (actually) never too late” to change. Remaining in a situation that makes us feel powerless, frustrated or disappointed is creating shaking grounds where goals, dreams and enjoyment are harder to flourish. Reach out to friends, family and professionals, remain truthful to yourself and remember that we need to take some risks in life in order to gain something in the future. Just be patient and trust the wisdom of time.
2. You are your biggest project.
It is amazing and inspiring to take care, help, share and empathize with others. Connecting is one of the best ways to feel proud, happy and full of purpose, as well as to explore our individuality and even to recognise ourselves in others; but keep in mind that, in this life, the biggest project you’ll ever have is yourself. Your needs and wants are important, so listen to them, prioritise them. Your personal and professional growth, as well as your independence are vital in your search for your own version of happiness. Be as gentle, kind, compassionate and understanding with yourself as you would be with the people that you love the most.
3. Follow your heart
Sometimes life feels so complex and hard that we forget that, within us, we have the most powerful compass ever invented: our heart. In practical terms, following your heart is not an impulsive act, but a thoroughly thought one. Take a moment to identify your values, dreams, needs and wants and assess if you’re living a life that is aligned with them and that enables you to be the truest version of yourself. Keep moving, keep searching, keep fighting, even in the darkest times and places, always following and trusting the power and honesty of your heart.
-Silvia Rojas for Gals en Australia
